Saying hello on dating sites
After you heard their opinion once, that was enough.
Now you’re starting to resent them saying anything to you…
My boyfriend is still in close contact with his most recent ex in a way which is troubling me.
I know he has remained close to a few of his ex’s which doesn’t concern me at all (he has the right to be friends with anyone) but the most recent ex is still extremely needy.
She sends him nasty texts saying he is forgetting his friends if he hasn’t seen her for a while, posts catty comments on his facebook page, yet he still won’t cut her off.
He says it is easier to remain friends with her than not to, but I personally won’t surround myself with people who are so toxic.
It was insecurity at its finest, and it’s not a male thing- it’s a human thing. I needed to learn to trust my own instincts – to trust that I would know something was wrong if my relationship was bad, not because I felt jealous or uncomfortable about a relationship she had.
I regret it – it was destructive and never ever helped my relationship. I handled (because it was my problem, not hers.) The truth is that when I was in that situation, I didn’t manage my fears. It was like, I was so afraid of the idea that she could have been doing something and playing me for a fool that I felt compelled to snuff out any relationship she had that made me uncomfortable.
now you’re starting to block their opinion out because it’s none of their business.
Now, I’m assuming you’ve had this experience at least once in your life. And the truth is some of the time the people warning me about a relationship were right…
but other times they were absolutely, positively wrong.
But I can tell you, every time that someone has pressured me by telling me their opinion of someone more than once, I started to resent them for making the complaint. Because when they tell me more than once that they don’t agree with my relationship with a person, they’re disrespecting me.